First, I'm having a hard time leaving comments. I keep getting logged out or something. It's making me very upset--I want to SAY things to people and I get so frustrated that I can't. I understand I'm not the only one, so hopefully it gets fixed soon. But I am not ignoring you!
Second, I still haven't started spotting. I just don't know what's going on. Wish I did, but I don't.
Third, no, we have no explanation for my husband's sperm issues. All of his hormones are perfect. He had an itsy bitsy varicocele in one of his testes, but the doctor was entirely convinced that wasn't an issue, and that doing anything about it would likely cause more harm than do any good. We had his genome ran (with Counsyl), and he's not a carrier for anything (except a weird iron-uptake thing, which is easily treated nowadays). (Sometimes MFI can mean you're a carrier for CF or other things.) We have not had him karyotyped. We (the two of us, our doctors have just said "we simply don't know") think it's likely one of two things:
(1) He was adopted shortly before Roe v. Wade was handed down. His mother was a college student at a party school (and seriously, this is all he knows of his parents--no health history, just the general circumstances of his conception), and so it seems likely that she was drinking (if not doing more) before finding out she was pregnant, and quite possibly afterwards. Pre-natal care was probably not very high on her list, and "accidentally-on-purpose" early miscarriage strategies don't seem impossible. Yes, we are stereotyping, and no, I don't think everyone who gives a child up for adoption takes little pre-natal care, but still, given what we know and the time of his birth (Jan 1971), we don't think it's a huge stretch. So possible exposure to chemicals in utero.
(2) Exposure to chemicals post-birth. He was raised right next to a military base that, while not quite Area 51, has many questionable things about it during the Cold War. And his (adopted) dad worked there, so we're not making it up.
Of course, it could always just be (3) shitty luck.
Umm, fourth, I don't trigger on my FET protocols (does anyone?), so the positives weren't from that.
I think that's about it...I still want to get into the donor sperm discussion, but I need to be in the right space to write about it.
Thanks for sticking with me.
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I'm sorry about the having to wait to spot. The waiting is the worst.
I agree that 1 and 2 would indeed be likely contributors. I'd still think a karyotype might be useful to do, given how inexpensive a test it is - and it has the potential for giving useful answers. And hey, you get a picture of your loved one's chromosomes that you could hang up on the wall!
As for donor sperm - I am very much looking forward to your eventual post. We used a sperm donor, but we were expecting that this would be necessary since we started dating, and thus had nearly a decade to wrap our heads around the idea (and select a suitable gentleman - we went the known donor route). I'd expect it's a very different thing when you (and the rest of the world) have all been assuming that you would be able to produce a baby with just two of you, no third party gametes needed.
Just an FYI I got a shot of HGH (trigger) after my FET, the doctor said it helped (not sure how).
I didn't do any sort of trigger for my FET.
*hugs* I too hate the uncertainty of why we are infertile without a 'proper' diagnosis.
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