And I don't know how I feel. She told me yesterday. Well, rather, she "hinted" yesterday, asking me which pregnancy book I had and telling me she didn't like the ones she had and...[pause]. So I asked, "Are you?" and she said, "Am I what?" Which, come on. "Pregnant?" "Yes."
I'm not sobbing about it, which is a huge improvement over my SIL's pregnancy (which I "discovered" while doing my last IVF cycle, but the whole family already knew...) I expected it--they were trying for about 5 months, and she'd asked me for my RE's number "just in case". I've blogged about her before, and why...well, I'm not all that certain that she'll make a very good mom. Which sounds horrible, I know. But there it is. She lacks empathy and patience. She means well, but she can be incredibly cruel unintentionally. And she's never liked kids, never worked with them, never even baby sat. So.
I'm still kind of pissed off. It was so easy for them. Sex. Not even charting. Just sex. And the last we talked about it (which was well over a year ago), my sister only wanted a girl. Now, she didn't "sway" or anything, but I just know she'll be "disappointed" if it's a boy. In fact, she kind of alluded to this yesterday, saying she hadn't had any morning sickness yet and she'd heard that means boy and is that true? I did not take the bait.
But it was so IRRITATING, because she knows about my HG and I had told her earlier (before she told me about her pregnancy) that I'd puked out of my nose in the morning and have lost another 3 lbs. So it was like a one-two punch of "I don't have any sickness" and "God I hope this baby isn't a boy".
Her husband just got his PhD and still hasn't found a job yet--and isn't working at all, even in a "lesser area".
I dunno, I guess I'm just frustrated at the unfairness of it all, and really not looking forward to "bonding" with her over pregnancy and newborn issues. (She lives about 15-20 minutes away from me.)
She doesn't know how far along she is but thinks she's due at the end of May.
5 comments:
Your babies will be way cuter. Plus, you are twice as pregnant as she is - she's pretty much a loser. One baby? HA! I scoff in her general direction.
Lulu....lol
I have to also LOL @ Lulu's comment!
I can understand why you are frustrated and irritated at your sister. I know a few people have announced pregnancies since I have been pregnant and I still think it's unfair that it happens so easily for some without any treatments or complications..guess I'll always be a bitter infertile at heart!
Sorry to hear you are still sick too..that must be absolutely awful. *hugs*
Ugh, fertiles. Even worse when they're in your own family.
I hope eventually you'll be able to look at the positives of this development. For one thing, your babies will have a cousin relatively close to their age nearby.
Just think of it this way: You've got TWO! You've totally lapped her. :-)
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