And everybody knew but me.
My grandparents spilled the beans during a huge family dinner tonight. At a restaurant, so I couldn't even go cry.
I'm more pissed off than I am sad. I figured it was only a matter of time--their little girl is 17 months--and as much as I hate the fact that my shiftless step-brother can't keep a job, his wife is an excellent mother. It just makes me angry that I am the last to know, and there were no plans to tell me. My sister-in-law (I've mentioned before that she's the most understanding about this whole thing) even asked my mom when and how she thought they should tell me.
This was after I told my mom I would prefer to know anything sooner rather than later, and in private.
My mother told her to wait till I was pregnant.
Umm...yeah.
After dinner, I called them both--my SIL to congratulate her but to ask why she's been avoiding me (she's had awful morning sickness and didn't want to lie to me...) and to say it hurt my feelings to find out this way.
And my mom to fight with her (after my SIL told me what she'd said, and that everyone else has known for 3 weeks).
They're due in December.
Some days, I just really hate everyone and everything.
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I'm so, so very sorry. Both of my sisters have become pregnant in the course of our treatments. It's meant a lot of hurt with both of them. In the end, it's also meant a lot more understanding in our relationships. I truly hope this brings that for you as well. I know that these moments can bring the deepest hurt we've known on this journey. My heart goes out to you, and I absolutely understand. Take care of yourself... you need that, especially right now.
Oh Marissa, I am sorry. It feels terrible to be shielded.
Btw, I am glad your cycle is off to a great start.
Sending you ((hugs))
I feel you pain! My SIL is ready to pop any time now, she told us she was pregnant a week after we were told we were infertile.
Sending my prayers to you that this cycle is the one! (((HUGS)))
UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH geez you can't catch a break can you?
I am so so sorry. My best friend found out she was pregnant the same day we found out our baby's heart had stopped at 10 weeks. She told us right away, and I was devastated, but I would have been mad if they didn't tell me. Then my sister-in-law got pregnant too, and I was so conflicted again. the whole thing just sucks. I'm just praying this round works its magic for you,
That was a terrible way to tell you- it should have been done in private, and much sooner. I'm so sorry.
Oh Marissa- I am SO sorry! The delivery of finding out friends and family members pregnanices is sometimes so off that iy is laughable! We tell them how we prefer to get the news, yet they can't even respect that! Some of my friends have told me in the kindest way possible, but it still stings and makes me cry! This all sucks so much and I am hoping you get your BFP soon too!! XOXO!!!!
Your sister-in-law seems like a very sweet lady with her heart in the right place, thinking about how to best broach this. I'm glad for you that she's sensitive to how hard it is to be in your shoes, since not everyone has that empathy. Hopefully that will make the pregnancy in the immediate family easier to deal with.
(I have dreaded and dawdled making pregnancy announcements, too, because I know how hard they can be to receive, and also how hard they are to retract.)
And yes, your mother did need a talking to about how ignoring your wishes is not okay, even if it comes from a desire to protect you and a touching if naive faith that of COURSE treatments will work.
I'm so sorry. I hope that much later you can look back on this and have the suck obliterated by how nice it is for your kid to have a cousin so very close in age.
Foul. This is truly a foul move. Especially after you'd been very specific about wanting to know. Good for you for saying so. You had ever right to do so.
(It sounds like a truly crappy day.)
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I think partly that thier intentions were in the right spot, but that stuff really backfires when you realize you've been purposefully left in the dark. That should never have been the solution to finding a delicate way to share her news with you.
I hope you are feeling better today. I am sitting here waiting for the phone to ring - my SIL is about to be induced in the next 24 hours. Joy!
Take care, xoxo
I'm sorry to hear. :( I'd rather know sooner then later too, cry in private and then accept it.
Oh, that's just rotten. And I just read your post about your sister as well. Family just makes you want to go live in a cave sometimes, don't they? For me the worst part of this kind of thing is knowing that they're talking about me behind my back, trying to figure out how to "handle" me.
So sorry that you've got this crap on top of everything else.
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