http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/02/10/ep.conception.truths.myths/index.html?hpt=Sbin
I saw this article on CNN a few days ago. (Hope the link works). It's called "11-11-11: How To Get the Coolest Birthday For Your Baby". It refers to the date as "coveted".
And it makes me mad.
It's also not the only article I've run across telling everyone to go out and have sex NOW so they can get my due date. I feel possessive and also just...UGH. The thought of people intentionally planning their pregnancy around a due date (not just a due month, which honestly I'm ok with, though very jealous of) is just infuriating to me. The thought of women being induced or choosing to schedule their elective C-sections on 11/11/11 makes me want to tear my hair out. I hate elective induction and elective C-sections anyway, but thinking of all these babies being born a week or so before they're ready just for a little nifty line to fill out on forms makes me furious.
I think part of it, of course, is knowing that I'll be hearing all about these 11/11/11 babies come November...and that I might not have one. And while some of those babies' parents might have worked as hard, or harder, than I have to get to that point, because of articles like this, they will all seem like stupid, silly, fertile, ungrateful, idiots who stole my due date. Hearing about this, if I'm not pregnant (or already successfully, happily delivered), will ruin my whole month.
And also, it's Veteran's Day. So, you know, it just seems kind of wrong to turn it into this huge "ooh, neato" thing. Accidentally, sure, that's fine. But intentionally, just...no.
But mainly I think I'm jealous as fuck. That people can do this, or even think they can do this. And even, when it comes right down to it, that their babies come from sex, instead of, say, numerous injections, scans, blood draws, tens of thousands of dollars, multiple failures, time in a freezer, pills swallowed and gels inserted, oh, you know, three failed IVF rounds and hopefully a successful FET.
Look, I'm not an idiot. I know that my due date means nothing. It's an "on or around" with emphasis on 'around', especially if I am lucky enough to have twins. Hell, I'm still not counting October out. But for some reason, one I can't really put my finger on, I'm really bothered by people setting out to get 'my' due date, just for the hell of it.
In the meantime, I'm waiting to pee on an OPK, because I may or may not have gotten a positive earlier. I suck at interpreting them. It never used to matter, because I didn't do IUI (the sperm, they are not strong, shapely, or plentiful enough, alas), so I'd just be like "eh, close enough, let's have sex till my temp rises". (Or, well, whatever timing kick I was on that month.) Now suddenly it actually matters and I have no idea if the line was as dark. I'm on Cycle Day 11, so probably not...but ugh.
So yeah, I hate people for stealing the due date I may not even have.
7 comments:
It makes me mad and jealous too. My coworker always brags about how perfectly spaced her three children are (two months apart - june - august - october). Well LA DI DA lucky you, fertile bitch.
It pisses me off too. Like it's so fucking easy (well I guess it is for other people).
Thanks for this post. I laughed about your being jealous that babies come from actual sex...that being a possibility is so far in the past for me...I get mad about that too...why can't getting pregnant be some loving, fun thing and not this painful, expensive, inconvenient, angst-ridden process? So not fair!
just found your blog! Hi!!! I am cd 10 today and staring opk's for my FET (ivf 1 was BFN) i am doing a natural cycle so hoping my body cooperates..great post!
best wishes.. i use the clearblue opks sometimes the smiley faces helps..but if you are seeing dark you should get a clear sooon..yay!
It's unreal, I agree. That kind of conversation (the have a baby on 11-11-11) is so far out of my realm of existence, that it's like listening to aliens discuss the weather on Mars:)
Just console yourself with the fact that the people who aim for an 11-11-11 due date only do it because they worry they'll forget their child's birthday if the date isn't memorable. (well, when you are super fertile and have 9 children's birthdays to remember it is tough)... Not consoling enough?!
This is just plain stupidity. I was lucky enough to get pregnant as a result of sex, but in no way was it so easy and predictable that we could choose our babies' due dates. Even if it had been that easy, it wouldn't have mattered....my kids were 10 and 12 weeks early. Thinking that parenthood can be planned like that just reeks of unpreparedness. And yes, spits in the face of those who don't have it to so easy.
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